I remember when my son was young and played soccer. At the end of the season everyone got a trophy. It didn’t matter how many games you won or if you ever contacted the ball during the game, everyone on the team got one. The kids loved it.
I loved the idea of learning a sport in a non-competitive environment without having to make winners and losers out of five year olds. Some of the more competitive parents scoffed at this saying “the kids know who won and lost.” Throughout the years after every sporting event my son participated in, and there were many, win or lose I told him “Good Game,” which he informed me that kids hate. But that did not deter me.
My favorite sport was middle school track. So many children came out and ran and jumped and had fun. There were events for every talent from dashes to long distance to high jumping to long jumping. Somehow we were blessed with coaches who managed to instill in our kids that the person they were competing was their “personal best.”
Winning was great, but beating your “personal best” was an equally celebrated accomplishment. I wish we could all carry that attitude with us throughout our lives. Then we would stop comparing our accomplishments to other people’s and measure our success by what really counts “our personal best.” That would be my utopia.
Tuesday, June 23, 2009
Do Rae ME
Believe in yourself. You hold the power. Change the channel, turn the volume up or down or off. It’s completely up to you.
People search for happiness when happiness is found simply by living authentically. Tiptoe out of the shadows and give voice to your own light. Share yourself honestly and humbly and you won’t have to go looking for happiness and peace, they will find you.
When you stop listening to someone else’s soundtrack and make your own beautiful music, even if others might think it has a little too much cowbell, your spirit WILL sing.
People search for happiness when happiness is found simply by living authentically. Tiptoe out of the shadows and give voice to your own light. Share yourself honestly and humbly and you won’t have to go looking for happiness and peace, they will find you.
When you stop listening to someone else’s soundtrack and make your own beautiful music, even if others might think it has a little too much cowbell, your spirit WILL sing.
Monday, June 22, 2009
Can you tell I’m excited!!!
Very soon, I will become a grandma for the first time! Her name will be Sophia. There she is in her beautiful mother’s tummy with my adoring son leaning in closely.
I have been told this is a joy like no other. That I will look into this child's little face and be overwhelmed to know that I will be a part of her life forever. I will also get to experience all the happiness my own child feels becoming a parent. WOW!
I get all the good stuff like spending time with her, helping care for her and loving on her (kiss kiss) but still get a good night’s sleep.☺
My current dilemma is what to call myself? Am I her Nana, Nonna, Grandma, Ma Ma, Gi Gi or the host of other choices? In today’s society grandparents are opting for names that express their own uniqueness.
For Bob it was easy. He’s opting for BABA. It’s usually one of the first sounds/words babies say. I am considering Carenu (pronounced care-new). My nephew Augie called me this when he was a baby. I’m guessing that he heard the “N” sound on the end of Caren as “nu”.
My mom was always Grandma Sara to my son. I wanted him to know her as a person with a first name, too.
I have been told this is a joy like no other. That I will look into this child's little face and be overwhelmed to know that I will be a part of her life forever. I will also get to experience all the happiness my own child feels becoming a parent. WOW!
I get all the good stuff like spending time with her, helping care for her and loving on her (kiss kiss) but still get a good night’s sleep.☺
My current dilemma is what to call myself? Am I her Nana, Nonna, Grandma, Ma Ma, Gi Gi or the host of other choices? In today’s society grandparents are opting for names that express their own uniqueness.
For Bob it was easy. He’s opting for BABA. It’s usually one of the first sounds/words babies say. I am considering Carenu (pronounced care-new). My nephew Augie called me this when he was a baby. I’m guessing that he heard the “N” sound on the end of Caren as “nu”.
My mom was always Grandma Sara to my son. I wanted him to know her as a person with a first name, too.
I’m sure when the time comes I’ll know who I am. Until then…do you have any ideas for me?
Tuesday, June 16, 2009
Surrender Is Not a Cinch
A part of what I am learning and writing about is surrende. Not surrender as in defeat, surrender as in acceptance of “what is.” Living without the expectation that things should be different than they are.
Some say that when you stop needing something you get it. That seems to cynical to me. I think that when you release your attachment to needing something, you may still want it, it often manifests.
Here’s an example. You’ll laugh when you realize that this is about Cinch glass cleaner. I have love, love, love this cleaner. The smell is so clean and it doesn’t streak and leaves countertops sparkling, need I say more.
Last winter the two stores where I buy it stopped carrying it and couldn't special order it for me.
So what did I do? I Googled searched it and found it was available but only to large janitorial supply customers. So I forgot about it for a while, but like a pesky itch, I knew that I would eventually scratch it again.
This week I could resist no longer. Again I Googled it. This time I found it from an online retailer but the shipping costs were more than the product. I have an aversion to that, so I bailed. I decided that I was delaying the inevitable, I surrendered.
But didn't completely give up. I found a website that told me that the main ingredient in Cinch was (Isopropanol a.k.a alcohol) and they listed a glass cleaner with Isopropanol in it.
With the surrender to my obsession with Cinch behind me, the hunt was on for the new similar formula product. Some might say this was a replaced obsession, and they could be right. After searching in five different stores, I began to doubt this product’s existence. I decide to check one more store before surrendering completely.
I scan the shelves, no sighting of the new product, damn. I turn to leave and the heavens open and choirs of angels sing and out of the corner of my eye glowing on the bottom shelf I SEE CINCH! I am so excited you would think I’d won the lottery. This orange trophy is more valuable to me than an Academy Award. I buy all the bottles I can carry (four).
I need to practice this surrender thing. My Cinch quest lasted six months, that’s a long time to devote to a glass cleaner, but in my defense it isn’t just ANY glass cleaner.
Some say that when you stop needing something you get it. That seems to cynical to me. I think that when you release your attachment to needing something, you may still want it, it often manifests.
Here’s an example. You’ll laugh when you realize that this is about Cinch glass cleaner. I have love, love, love this cleaner. The smell is so clean and it doesn’t streak and leaves countertops sparkling, need I say more.
Last winter the two stores where I buy it stopped carrying it and couldn't special order it for me.
So what did I do? I Googled searched it and found it was available but only to large janitorial supply customers. So I forgot about it for a while, but like a pesky itch, I knew that I would eventually scratch it again.
This week I could resist no longer. Again I Googled it. This time I found it from an online retailer but the shipping costs were more than the product. I have an aversion to that, so I bailed. I decided that I was delaying the inevitable, I surrendered.
But didn't completely give up. I found a website that told me that the main ingredient in Cinch was (Isopropanol a.k.a alcohol) and they listed a glass cleaner with Isopropanol in it.
With the surrender to my obsession with Cinch behind me, the hunt was on for the new similar formula product. Some might say this was a replaced obsession, and they could be right. After searching in five different stores, I began to doubt this product’s existence. I decide to check one more store before surrendering completely.
I scan the shelves, no sighting of the new product, damn. I turn to leave and the heavens open and choirs of angels sing and out of the corner of my eye glowing on the bottom shelf I SEE CINCH! I am so excited you would think I’d won the lottery. This orange trophy is more valuable to me than an Academy Award. I buy all the bottles I can carry (four).
I need to practice this surrender thing. My Cinch quest lasted six months, that’s a long time to devote to a glass cleaner, but in my defense it isn’t just ANY glass cleaner.
Saturday, May 16, 2009
Biking Queen
I joined Bob's bike riding group this morning and rode 20 miles. This is quite an accomplishment for me. I have to say I am a little bit sore in some unusual places. I don't care what that guy at the bike shop says, I'm buying the biggest gel seat I can find before my next ride. Bob stayed home today because his toe has started hurting AGAIN! Drats!
It's smoking hot here today, temps approaching 100. I want to jump in the pool and cool off, but I can't because I used the last of the sunscreen for my ride.
We can't go out because we have no sunscreen and we have no sunscreen because we can't go out. If I remember correctly, that is a tautology. I knew that Logic class would come in handy someday. OOH, I just found a new word for it "circumlocution." Try fitting that into a sentence.
Enough of my roundabouts! I'm off to buy sunscreen!
It's smoking hot here today, temps approaching 100. I want to jump in the pool and cool off, but I can't because I used the last of the sunscreen for my ride.
We can't go out because we have no sunscreen and we have no sunscreen because we can't go out. If I remember correctly, that is a tautology. I knew that Logic class would come in handy someday. OOH, I just found a new word for it "circumlocution." Try fitting that into a sentence.
Enough of my roundabouts! I'm off to buy sunscreen!
Friday, May 15, 2009
Cheerio
I got up and decided that today is the day I become accountable for the calories I put into my mouth. Okay, backstory, my sister went on the Flat Belly Diet and looks and feels great and yes I am a little jealous. Not of her success, but of the fact that I STILL wince when I look at myself in pictures, and I'm betting that she doesn't, okay maybe she still does, but that's beside the point, or is it?
I measure my Cheerios, damn, I've been eating more than a normal portion and my milk is almost twice the desired amount. Okay, good data point, keep going. My goal for over a year has been to break into the 160's, I'll take 169.5. All those 12 hour days and 4 flights of stairs I ran up and down in Florida have provided me with an unexpected bonus, I am closer than ever to meeting that goal. So I figure if my sister (who never counted a calorie in her life) can do it, so can I.
Realistically, I know I'll probably still wince when I see photos of myself. Heck, I wince at other people's plastic surgery faces. Most look frightenly freakish. Is that what I want? I'm guessing that wincing might just come with the aging territory. All my wisdom had to accumulate somewhere. I glance in the mirror, I'm pretty sure it's in my chins. I feel a lot smarter now.
I measure my Cheerios, damn, I've been eating more than a normal portion and my milk is almost twice the desired amount. Okay, good data point, keep going. My goal for over a year has been to break into the 160's, I'll take 169.5. All those 12 hour days and 4 flights of stairs I ran up and down in Florida have provided me with an unexpected bonus, I am closer than ever to meeting that goal. So I figure if my sister (who never counted a calorie in her life) can do it, so can I.
Realistically, I know I'll probably still wince when I see photos of myself. Heck, I wince at other people's plastic surgery faces. Most look frightenly freakish. Is that what I want? I'm guessing that wincing might just come with the aging territory. All my wisdom had to accumulate somewhere. I glance in the mirror, I'm pretty sure it's in my chins. I feel a lot smarter now.
Tuesday, March 24, 2009
Your Hidden Talent
Laughter was what our 3-day girlfriend cruise to Ensenada was all about, that and friendship. We laughed so much our stomachs hurt like we’d done 1000 crunches or what we think that might feel like of course none of us really know.
I brought along a “Chat Pack” of cards with questions to use to spark conversations. We also copied some questions off our Southwest free drink coupons like “What is your pet peeve? The back of the card suggested after people answered to start doing their pet peeve.
We discovered that we hate it when people are late, say “where are you at?” bite their nails, act mean and five other things I can’t remember. It never failed to get a laugh when any one of us started to do something from the list or pointed out a nail bitter in the crowd.
Another question was “What is one thing that you can do that no one else here can do?” We had one person who could tie a cherry stem with her tongue, I blog, one claimed to be the fastest at teeth flossing, another had the private number of a celebrity that she could call to party with (hint initials K.R.). It sparked a lot of entertaining conversations.
Laughter IS the best medicine (that and white wine). Laugh till it hurts is a good motto, but we didn’t stop there. Children laugh all the time, adults wait for something funny to happen. Let’s change that!
Make me laugh, tell me your hidden talent.
I brought along a “Chat Pack” of cards with questions to use to spark conversations. We also copied some questions off our Southwest free drink coupons like “What is your pet peeve? The back of the card suggested after people answered to start doing their pet peeve.
We discovered that we hate it when people are late, say “where are you at?” bite their nails, act mean and five other things I can’t remember. It never failed to get a laugh when any one of us started to do something from the list or pointed out a nail bitter in the crowd.
Another question was “What is one thing that you can do that no one else here can do?” We had one person who could tie a cherry stem with her tongue, I blog, one claimed to be the fastest at teeth flossing, another had the private number of a celebrity that she could call to party with (hint initials K.R.). It sparked a lot of entertaining conversations.
Laughter IS the best medicine (that and white wine). Laugh till it hurts is a good motto, but we didn’t stop there. Children laugh all the time, adults wait for something funny to happen. Let’s change that!
Make me laugh, tell me your hidden talent.
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